this presentation I intent to approach sexuality in an open and honest way. This
means that I will name body parts and sexual activities by their (official)
names, although I find words like penis, vagina and masturbation horrible
inventions. This further means that I will illustrate the text with some
beautiful but erotic pieces of art. This also means that I may mention sexual
expressions you might find offensive, and that is fine. Your sex life is a very
personal part of you, and no one besides yourself can decide what you should
include or not. My aim is to give you good and practical information on this
form of magick; in no way I wish to be obscene.
believe that sex is a great gift from God/the Goddess by which we can meet each
other in a very pure, joyful and innocent way. To me sex magick is a sacred and
deep form of spirituality.
can cure the soul but the senses, just as nothing can cure the senses but the
soul." Oscar Wilde
magick means using your sexuality in order to work magick. This technique is
neither new nor outrageous; although usually kept secret many esoteric systems
use sexuality for spiritual and magical aims. Examples of such traditions are
witchcraft, shamanism, alchemy, Buddhism and Hinduism, Tantra and ancient
probably more known form of sex magick is the ceremonial sexual union of man and
woman on the land to ensure a good crop. Their fertility act should encourage
the land to deliver a rich harvest. Western sex magick has its roots in Hebrew
kabbalah and is spread further through several occult doctrines like the Knights
Templar and the Free Masons.
sex magick is a beautiful way of giving sex back its rightful place of sacred
sexuality. It is a firm invitation to leave the trail of the sneaky,
hidden-in-the-dark and 'sinful' sex most of us have grown up with. It is a call
to stop fighting this most powerful human force and to make use of its
possibilities. Since sexuality is a gift from God/the Goddess it is divine.
Within an open and respectful sexual relationship we can experience ourselves in
all our aspects: the animal part, the human part and the divine flame within.
Thus the beast-man-God is connected, as well as the beast-woman-Goddess.
sexual arousal an enormous amount of energy can be channeled upwards from the
genitals along the spine to the top of the head. On its way up this energy fills
and cleans blockages in the chakras, caused by emotional and psychological
wounds. This explains why several spiritual paths view sexual yoga as a shortcut
of the whole World – wall painting by Gustav Klimt
use sex for magical aims? Simply because the creative force itself creates very
powerful magick. Secondly because it is the most pleasurable magick one can do.
The strong sexual force is the 'raw oil of our body' as Lama Yeshe stated.
Several practitioners of sex magick reported that this form of magick turned out
to be much stronger then the ceremonial magick they had practiced before.
magick does not require previous knowledge of ceremonial magick. Anyone who is
dedicated to controlling and directing his or her sexual energies for magickal
work, and who has a reasonable physical condition, is able to perform sex
magick. However, if you don't feel attracted to sex magick simply don't do it!
And never let someone force you into sex magick against your will. Practicing
sex magick neither implies that you have to give up sex for pleasure. It is up
to you to decide how much sex you wish to use for magical rituals and how much
for purely having a good time with yourself or your partner.
magick we manipulate a certain amount of energy into a desired direction; for
that we specify a goal, raise energy and point it into the wished direction
(release the energy) to achieve a manifestation in our physical reality.
sex magick we basically focus on a goal by affirmation, visualization, etc.; we
raise much energy through prolonged sexual arousal and we release the energy at
the moment of orgasm. The goal in sex magick can be the achievement or
attraction of anything wished in the physical world, like a new house, a better
relationship or a healing. It can also be the charging of magickal tools or
talismans. And the goal can be spiritual development.
controlled form of lovemaking for higher purposes is often mentioned as the
ultimate explanation of Crowley’s famous statement "Love is the Law, Love
under Will." By love Crowley meant the uniting of the opposites masculine
and feminine, active and receptive, and not so much romantic love. Orgasm is
considered to be the moment when 'the gates of heaven open up'; for a while the
barriers between the restricted physical world and the limitless heavens
the precious orgasmic moments we swing away our magical desire into the universe
with enormous power and a 'magickal child' is born. This magickal child is the
astral effect of our magical action that will result in manifestation.
sexual fluids of man and woman are charged with powerful qualities because of
their magick and they can be used for several purposes.
spirituality depicted on the Khajuraho Temple, India
types of sex can be used for sex magick? In fact any sexual activity can be used
to work sex magick. It can be practiced alone, it can be practiced with a
partner of the same sex or of the opposite sex, and in advanced sex magick it is
also possible to work with more people. But: a group sex magick ritual is never
an excuse for a sexual orgy!
is a strong ritual in which several people dedicate their sexual forces towards
a mutual goal. Magick is synergistic, what means that the power conjured up is
geometric (1,2,4,8,16, etc., so a ritual with four people gives the energy of
eight separate people!).
remember that in no way this is an invitation to ever do a group ritual in your
life unwanted, nor does it mean that joining a group ritual implies that you
should also have sex with more than one partner in your personal love life. You
can include all forms of sex in your ritual; it can be genital, oral or anal
sex; it can be bondage, bizarre sex or whatever; as long as all partners
included enjoy it and agree it's okay.
sex magick we concentrate on the ritual, while in regular sex we concentrate on
the fantastic physical sensations and intimate togetherness. Sex magick rituals
feel very pleasurable but they do feel different. They are simply more intense.
much greater amount of sexual energy is built up due to mainly two reasons:
When you reach the brink of orgasm you back off and later on resume arousing. This leads to a stronger felt orgasm.
repeating the chosen affirmation during intercourse you send up energy from
the genitals to the head, so you constantly send bits of genital excitement
'away' upwards along your spine to be stored till the moment of orgasm. By
concentrating on your goal you extend the moment of orgasm and reach some
sort of trance.
I notice that halfway the ritual I can already feel the magical energy working.
I feel a large amount of hot energy along my spine and the chakras in my head,
while the crown chakra feels like a wide opened chalice or lotus flower. The
energy can cause big shiverings or emotional unloads like crying, mostly after
orgasm (be prepared for this and let it happen to yourself or your partner, it
magick orgasms will be intense. And after a ritual with a partner I feel
reverent and grateful, realizing that we have shared something truly meaningful.
Once you know the depths and values of sex magick I wonder if a partner who
would prefer to stick to 'normal' sex could any longer satisfy your needs.
have never heard of anyone who liked condoms, but they do have their effect on
preventing sexual transferable diseases. So in case you do magick with a partner
you're not sure of his/her physical sexual health, or in case you have several
partners or alternating partners - do yourself a favor and use a condom (with
also be very careful with oral sex in case you or your partner has a bleeding
wound or an ulcer in the mouth or on the genital area, or in case of an unusual
looking or smelling sexual fluid. Take care of your body and see a doctor.
Several sex magick authors emphasize the importance of the mingling of male and
female sexual fluids; in case you have a partner who carries no sexual
transferable disease it is great to (also) physically mingle sexual fluids; but
in case you're not sure please know that magick goes beyond matter, what means
that on astral level sexual fluids are mingled anyway, condom or not.
achievement is always preceded by spectacular preparation." Robert H.
bodies are beautifully shaped and wondrously working temples of the soul; in sex
magick the body literally is the temple in which the divine is worshipped, and
the genital area is the altar.
so many of us are unfortunately raised with the idea that our genitals are ugly.
Why for heaven's sake? Why is it considered to be very romantic if a poet
describes the beautiful eyes, face or breasts of a woman, and why is thought to
be obscene if he mentions the attraction of an opened vulva? Why are male
strippers sexy while wearing a string and don't the women want them completely
naked? Has the Goddess forgotten something or is there something strange going
on in society?
idea of genitals being a less accepted body part has everything to do with the
belief system of Christian and Islamic based societies having difficulties with
accepting sexuality. In this age you're allowed to think for yourself. Look into
the deepest you and ask yourself what you really find of the vulva of a woman
when she in excitement opens up for you like a flower, swelling and more
coloring, spreading a musky odor and an inviting moisture? And let your heart
speak if a man's testicles are swelling, his penis is hard and big and his
breath is deepening. He is proud of it himself, and why shouldn't you be?
Goddess has granted us the gift of being Gods ourselves; through these 'ugly'
genitals we can create a 'beautiful' baby - isn't this way of thinking
completely insane? To me the Indian approach with openly yoni (the vagina) and
vajra or lingam (the penis) worship is much healthier.
commonly spread idea is that our buttocks should better not be exposed. The
truth is however that both men and women get attracted and excited about the
butts of their partners, whether they are ideally shaped according to certain
standards or not.
periodicals show models size 34 to 36 with a body-fat percentage of 10, while
average women have 22 - 26 percent body-fat. Mother Nature does not agree with
the 'ideal' image of nowadays - beneath a certain amount of body-fat women
simply won't get pregnant. Many low-weighted ballet dancers and sufferers of
anorexia /bulimia don't menstruate! In earlier days the idea of beauty was much
heavier - if you look at the beautiful Greek goddesses or the women depicted on
17th till 19th century paintings we would nowadays consider them to be rubinesc.
The moral behind this story is that the idea of what is beautiful or not depends
very much on the standards of a certain time. So please throw all this social
your body as a miraculous instrument that does anything you want it to do;
secondly accept its unique shapes, unless your overweight is negatively
influencing your well being. In that case go to a gym or sports school and adapt
healthy eating habits. Working out regularly not only improves your physical
health and appearance, but it also increases your sex-drive and heightens your
self-esteem. Once you start it will become a 'healthy addiction' and it will
help you with the prolonged sexual activity of sex magick.
marble sculpture by Auguste Rodin
the book 'Conversations with God' Neale Walsch asks how we could best express
sexual energy. And God’s answer is: "Lovingly. Openly. Playfully.
Joyfully. Outrageous. Passionately. Sacred. Creative. Shameless. Sensual. And of
masturbation in the same reference God states, "give yourself enough
pleasure and you will dispose of enough pleasure to give away to others".
For those who wonder whether sex should be openly discussed and celebrated I
hope this is an answer. Sex can be a fantastic way of deep communication between
two people and with the inner you. Positive sexual experiences are very healing
on psychological and physical level (yes, physical ailments and diseases have
been cured by having sex) and they repair lesions in the auric shield.
and enjoying the pure you provides a strong connection with the forces of
ever-creative Great Mother Nature, and it reminds us of being gods ourselves. In
this way oral sex becomes an intimate way of worshipping the god or goddess in
your partner through adoring the genitals, being the physical representation of
the male or female deity. In oral sex the active partner connects the spiritual
chakras in the head with the sexual and creative chakra of the receptive
partner, another connection between spirituality and sexuality.
makes room to experience both our male and female side, and to alternatively be
active and passive, electric and magnetic; thus it enhances inner balance and we
cherish the inner lover. Sexuality and spirituality are two sides of the same
coin; they both aim at feeling fantastic, being in the present moment (the
never-ending now), dissolving barriers with other realms, connecting with the
divine, experiencing oneness, timelessness, void and ecstasy. Only their
starting point differs: sex starts in the lowest chakras while spirituality is
seated in the higher chakras.
there is room for acceptance of yourself and your lover, accompanied by trust of
and respect for one another, you will experience love, there will be surrender
to your partner and the sexual force and the divinity inside can express itself.
This kind of sexuality will lift you up beyond genital and physical sensations
and lead to inner peace, happiness, strength and spiritual growth.
you can perform sex magick using only the strong physical energy of sexuality
(on the level of the second or sex chakra) a higher form of sex magick can be
achieved once you can honor the divinity inside (up till the 13th chakra of
transformation). It may be clear that sex magick leaves no room for prudery,
hidden sexual agendas or conflicts of power between male and female forces.
sculpture of Gustav Vigeland
use of the breath is quite important in sex magick. Any type of bodywork teaches
that breathing deeply is important to relax, to free yourself from mental
occupation and to get more in contact with your feelings. But there is more:
Breathing deeply helps to charge your sexual battery. Breathing deeply helps to
postpone orgasm/ejaculation. Partners can circle and increase energy when the
active partner inhales through the nose and exhales through the genitals, while
the receptive, or other partner inhales through the genitals and exhales through
the nose. (This is partly a mental process.) Partners can also synchronize
inhaling and exhaling to tune into each other.
sex magick we breathe into the magical goal we visualize and/or affirm. And
finally we can breathe our orgasmic energy into the chosen reality or intention.
Increase the awareness of your breath by taking at least several complete yoga
respirations a day in the open air: first empty your lungs, slowly fill up your
belly with air, then your chest and finally your upper lungs up till your
throat. Hold on this air for a while and then start exhaling; first press the
air out of your belly with your muscles, then out of the chest area and finally
out of the upper lungs. When you have released all the air from your body keep
it that way for a while. Slowly inhale from the belly, etc. This is also a very
effective way to release stress and increase mental clarity.
Kiss, sculpture of C. Brancusi, 1907
exercises of the muscles in the pelvis will enable you to selectively increase
and decrease sexual arousal. By deliberately contracting these muscles erections
will be stronger, while erotic sensations and orgasms in both men and women will
start with the pubococcygeus muscle on the pelvis floor. You'll get to know this
muscle by deliberately stopping the flow of urine several times. The way of
exercising this muscle is as follows: contract it as if you stop urinating and
at the same time move it upward as if you wish to pull your genitals inside your
belly. Women can put one or two fingers in the vagina doing this exercise and
will notice that the vagina will gently contract too. Men will notice a bobbing
up of the head of the penis during contractions. Advantages of this exercise for
both sexes are stronger sexual feelings and curing/preventing of urinary stress
incontinence. Further advantage for women is indirect stimulation of the
clitoris and for men an increased erectile potency.
second important muscle system can be exercised by contracting the anal
sphincter, as if you are trying to hold back the stool, again accompanied by
upward movements of the genitals. If you contract this sphincter strongly you
will notice that it is connected with other muscles in the pelvis. A good way of
energizing yourself is the regular exercising of these muscles while visualizing
the life energy spiraling upwards along your spine, through your head and moving
downward to your genitals again through the front side of your body. In women
the anal sphincter is connected with the vaginal sphincter and other vaginal
muscles. By deliberate contractions women can learn to independently contract
the vaginal sphincter, the muscles along the vagina wall and the anal sphincter.
should they do that? Learning a fluid contraction that starts in the vaginal
sphincter and spreads upwards to the womb, as if you are 'milking a cow' gives
the penis a massage. You can also start these contractions at the cervix and
work downwards to the vaginal sphincter. In this way women increase the erotic
feelings of both their partner and themselves. Contracting the vaginal sphincter
during intercourse will help maintain male erection. Strong contractions of all
vaginal muscles at the brink of his orgasm, followed by rhythmic 'milking'
movements will intensify orgasm in men.
you have learned how to control your pelvic muscles you can consciously relax
them to take off sensual pressure at the point-of-no-return and thus postpone
ejaculation. So contract them to arouse, and relax them to back off (this goes
for both men and women).
Lord, intoxicate me with the wine Of Thy Love. Place the chains of Thy slavery
on My feet; Make me empty of all but Thy love, And in it destroy me and bring me
back to life.
hunger Thou has awakened culminates In fulfillment."
Sheikh Abdullah Ansari
this section I give you the basic structure of a sex magick ritual with the
'how's and 'why's while next chapter describes several possibilities for working
alone, with one or maybe more partners.
exactly do you want to achieve with your magick? Your goal can be any material
attainment, like a new job, prosperity in business affairs, a pleasant house,
whatever. Your goal can be the healing of yourself, another person, mother
earth… Your intent can be improvement of an existing relationship or
attraction of a new one. You may wish to (further) develop several qualities in
yourself, or create an excellent artistic piece.
may wish to embrace the inner lover, and establish a stronger connection with
your higher self. You may wish to charge an amulet, talisman, or magical tools,
or anything else. Deeply desired wishes create the strongest magick!
create something that makes it possible to laser-like concentrate on your
goal/intent during the ritual - this can be a short affirmation. During the
ritual you can repeat the whole affirmation. Another possibility is to reduce
this affirmation to a word that covers its central idea; this will be your
magical word. Examples: the affirmation "I am a successful business(wo)man"
becomes "Success". "I request the universe to send me the best
possible lover, or partner" becomes "Lover" or
idea behind it is that your sub-consciousness now knows your full intent,
therefore it is sufficient to only repeat your magical word during the ritual.
This can be a visualization of the new created reality.
can be a drawing of what you want.
It can be a symbolic representation of your desire, like a suitable tarot card, rune, sigil, astrological or other symbol.
In case you do the ritual for someone else it can be helpful to also have a photograph of the person.
can use a combination of the above.
the space where the ritual will take place. Decorate it with candles, incense,
flowers, gemstones or anything else you find appropriate. If you use symbols or
other pictures make sure you can see them during the ritual. If you wish to play
music, don't forget to put it on the repeat-button. Close the door and lay the
phone off the hook.
bathing or showering you can visualize the water washing off all mental,
emotional and physical dirt.
some deep breaths or meditate a little. If you do magick with a partner you may
want to sit opposite each other, hold hands and synchronize breathing or inhale
while your partner exhales.
is very important to visualize a strong circle/globe of protection that keeps
all unwanted spirits out, or do any other banishment you prefer, before you
actually start the ritual.
know two 'main routes': one with emphasis on the affirmation/mantra/Word of
Power, and one with emphasis on visualization. If you choose to work with an
affirmation: Arouse yourself and/or your partner by any sexual activity you wish
to use until you almost reach orgasm. Meanwhile keep on repeating the
affirmation or mantra; you can say it out loud or repeat it silently.
you are at the brink of orgasm back off by stopping all genital stimulation,
stopping all pelvic movements and relax the muscles in the pelvic floor. Breathe
deeply and concentrate even more on your mantra. After a while build up more
excitement, backing off again just before the point-of-no-return. This way you
build up a great amount of sexual magical energy and deep erotic sensations; you
may reach a state of sexual trance.
several times coming close you wish to sweep all of your intent into the
universe; let orgasm happen and - here comes the most important part - keep on
affirming during orgasm with full mental concentration, call out loud your
magical word(s) and don't mind the neighbors!
care: if you lose focus during orgasm, you will have had great sex but no
magical ritual! Continue the ritual until both (or all) partners have reached
you prefer working with a visualization: Start with visualizing very vividly the
new reality; see yourself in the desired situation, feel your happiness about
it, visualize it as bright and detailed as you can. If you work for somebody
else, for instance in case of a healing, visualize their joy and enthusiasm in
the new situation. When your visualization is complete to your idea, tell your
mind that this is your focus, then mentally store it in your sub-consciousness.
Start making love with your partner or masturbating, no longer thinking about
the visualization. At the brink of orgasm back off, recall your visualization
and breathe your orgasmic energy in it. Continue the rhythm of arousal and
backing off several times. Just before orgasm recall the visualization from your
mind and breathe/channel your orgasm into it.
of Lovers, drawing by Auguste Rodin
you are a woman capable of having multiple orgasms (a series of orgasms quickly
after one another), just enjoy, have them during the ritual and end with the
final orgasm. If you are a man, here's the good news that men can learn to have
multiples too; by coming close then backing off just before the
point-of-no-return several times men can experience all the feelings of an
orgasm without having an ejaculation. Some men have a series of small orgasms,
some men experience them as bigger orgasms. If you can do this, end the ritual
with final orgasm/ejaculation.
all men know that most women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm; although
there are erotic areas in the vagina most women need the pressure of the pubic
bone of their partner against the clitoris or stimulation by hand during
intercourse to have orgasm. The clitoris is a tiny size female penis; it also
swells during arousal and it is designed especially for female pleasure. You
will find it where the inner lips meet at the top, it looks like a small knob
and it desires the same soft caresses with hand (make it moist with some vaginal
fluids), tongue or sucking as the male head of the penis.
not so well known female erotic zones are (but not as sensitive as the
G-spot, about 1,5 inch inside the vagina, on the front side, you'll recognize it
by the rougher texture than the rest of the vagina; when you stimulate this for
a while first the woman often feels like urinating, but when she's through this
feeling this place will become very sensitive and enable her an orgasm with
more or less opposite the G-spot
spot just above the opening of the urinary tube (just above the vagina).
orgasm you may wish to confirm your magick with the words: "So mote it
be" and to give thanks to God/the Goddess and your partner.
is important to stay close the first minutes after intercourse with your
genitals close together. There are two reasons for this:
When having sex your chakras open up and after orgasm you're completely open with part of your energy swirling around you. You need some time to recollect it and get energized again. If one partner rushes away after orgasm you can feel very disappointed, lonely and exhausted because of this reason.
After sex magick the sexual fluids of man and woman are charged with their magical intent; they can etherically absorb this power for their well being and health through the vaginal walls and the head of the penis.
are situations where you do not want to stay close together with your genitals.
The charged sexual fluids can be used to charge an amulet or talisman by
smearing some of it on them; in case your ritual was for gaining money you can
smear it on a coin or paper money you had put on your altar; you can redraw the
lines of a sigil for this ritual with it, mix the fluid with wine and drink it
with your partner, etc.
sex magick the charged sexual fluids have become the sacred elixir of life, and
are in no way dirty. If however you are carrying a sexual transmittable disease
it is best to skip this part. When you are doing sex magick alone please know
that your sexual fluids form a complete sacrament, although they now contain one
polarity, not two.
heightened energy of your ritual may have attracted astral beings. Make sure to
keep them at a distance by reconfirming your banishment, like for instance a
visualized circle of protection.
Danae, by Gustav Klimt. The golden stream of Zeus' sperm between the thighs of the earthly beauty
your hormones are knocking; there is no time to prepare a ritual but still you
wish to direct your sexual energy into magick. Try this:
imagine a circle of protection
Imagine two burning candles as representation of any ritual space
Dedicate your energy to your spiritual development, with a mantra like "I open up for my full human potential" or magical word "open up", or when you're with a partner something like "I honor your divinity" or magical word "divinity"
the circle of protection.
days before the menstruation a larger amount of hormones circulates in the
female body, not only increasing her emotions but also her magical power. During
menstruation this extra power leaves her body; this can give an extra dimension
to the elixir, but please be very careful to only use this when the woman is in
good health. After all menstruation is also a natural monthly cleaning period
for her body.
all women feel like having sex in this period. But those who do can feel
strongly accepted in all their feminine aspects by having intercourse these
days. Sexual union during the (pre)menstruation days can often relief the cramps
many women experience during their period. I have not read it in any book, but
it's quite logical that the day of ovulation is also an extreme powerful day for
the woman, even apart from the fact that she can get pregnant then. It is her
personal full moon - but don't forget the condom, or do oral sex magick. If
however you wish to conceive you can make this a special happening with a
lovingly and carefully prepared sex magick ritual - and give your baby a very
sex magicians prefer to perform their rituals in the form of auto-eroticism
and/or having intercourse with a partner. But there are more possibilities and
variations. You may wish to take a look at them and consider to implement them
in your sex magickal practice.
don't knock masturbation. It's sex with someone I love!" Woody Allen
many of us the word masturbation has a bad taste. It is said to be sinful and
make you deaf, lame and blind (?) Let's be honest and admit that almost all
human beings masturbate since the discovery of their sexuality in childhood.
is a very good way to overall self-acceptance and respect for your body as an
earthly home for your spirit. If you practice physical self-love this way I
guarantee you a much greater feeling of satisfaction and calmness of mind then
when you use it as a quick way to get rid of tension.
above mentioned quote of Woody Allen makes me smile, but it contains truth:
accepting and enjoying self-stimulation is making love with your inner lover.
After this intro it won't surprise you that many sex magicians advice to start
practicing sex magick with masturbation. It's simply the best way to learn to
know your body, to explore your individual reactions and learn how to prolong
orgasm. Another reason is that it makes you independent of a partner; it is a
powerful sex magick technique in itself. And this explains why most sex magickal
acts are auto-erotic. The best known solo sex magick practice is one person
raising magical energy by self-stimulation.
Drawing of a masturbating woman, Gustav Klimt
Another possibility is visualizing a goddess or god making love to you while you're masturbating. Goddesses and gods personify important human characteristics and talents/qualities, or aspects of life in their pure form. We can imagine ourselves in sexual union with a deity in case we wish to strengthen or emphasize these qualities in ourselves.
You may need help for a specific goal, for instance from a goddess of love, a god of healing or a god specialized in divination. If this is the case, start the ritual, arouse yourself and invoke the chosen goddess/god. Visualize the deity as vivid as you can with all your senses! Keep on repeating the name of your deity; at the moment of orgasm you channel the energy into your goal (something related to the deity).
You may wish the god's help to improve certain qualities in yourself, let's say intuition. In this case your 'goal' is projected inside yourself: while astrally making love you absorb the divine energy which will help you manifest that same energy yourself. Build up as much energy as you can and climax.
Thank and release the deity before you end the ritual! Working with a goddess/god can be intensely erotic. Deities are free from negative sexual conditioning, they will let go, and they bring along much energy.
Each deity has its own personality and they will bring it with during their
loveplay. Therefore know who you invite. Working with deities is not something I
would advise for beginning sex magicians. You can even go further by invoking a
goddess/god into your own body. Here you deliberately surrender your ego. You
offer yourself completely for a higher purpose. You can work this deep and
intense sex magick as described above. At the end thank and release the deity!
Again: this is not for starting sex magicians. And never, never invoke an entity
lower than a goddess/god/archangel into your body!
seducing Olympia, painting by Guilio Romano
technique between solo and duo sex magick is this: one magician fully
concentrates on the magical goal, while a supportive partner arouses him/her.
After having explored auto-erotic sex magick first, this is a good way to
smoothly 'glide' into working with a partner.
forth, o children, under the stars, and take your fill of love." Aleister
partner sex magick the energy circulates and builds up between two people. To
produce great effect it is best if both partners are more or less equally
trained in sex magick, or truly willing to become so and practice a lot.
partner should always know that you intent to do a sex magick ritual - and agree
with it! It is perfect to expand barriers in duo sex magick as long as you both
feel comfortable with it. If for any reason something happens against your will
immediately stop the ritual!
commonly known technique of duo sex magick is having intercourse, be it with a
partner of the opposite sex or of the same sex. Several magicians advice the
position woman-on-top for sex magick; in this position the woman controls the
depth and rhythm of penetration, she can get clitoral stimulation, and most men
need more time to reach orgasm. All good reasons to use this position, but even
more important is your personal preference. And you might wish to change
positions as well; for this reason it is practical to place your symbol/sigil on
different places in the room - or draw it with body paint on your partner's
Woman on top, Kama Sutra
Intercourse positions can be seen as Asana's, yoga-positions, each having a specific way of freeing and directing energies. I came across some considerations on certain positions:
The famous missionary position (man-on-top): here the chakra's of the partners are placed opposite each other and partners can look into each others eyes; this enhances intimacy, contact, healing and energy. A good position for a man to reach orgasm. This position is advised if you're doing magick for a positive change in the man's life.
An interesting variation for sex magick: still man-on-top, but the woman holds her legs together after penetration and does not move; only the man is active giving her his energy, she holds all this sexual energy and directs it into the universe. I would name this a good position to do magick for a mutual goal - or for something the woman wishes to realize.
Woman-on-top (cowgirl or camel-position): this woman-active position is good to do magick for a goal the woman wishes to realize. The woman gets more stimulation and the man tends to ejaculate later.
Woman-on-top-reversed (with her face looking at her partner's feet): in this position there's no eye contact, but it can be very stimulating for both partners. A good position to do magick for a friend of the woman (she receives much of his energy and can direct it into the universe).
Side-to-side-positions: both partners are equally active/receptive; their chakras are placed opposite each other and their eyes meet - what means a lot of contact and exchange of energies. Good for magick for a mutual goal.
Doggie-position (woman on her knees, or lying on her belly, and the man entering her from behind): many people like this position, because it brings up their wild, instinctive side. A highly energizing position, and good for sending energy to someone the man wants to send energy to.
Lotus-position (the man sits in lotus- or meditation-position with the woman on his lap, her legs around his waist and his arms on her shoulders): a highly meditational position with not much room to move but much contact between the chakra's, a very good position to use the 'secret language' consisting of male and female rhythmical internal movements with the pelvis muscles. A good position if your magick aims at spiritual development with slowly and steady built up energies, not really directed at a specific goal in the outside world (for this aim also the side-by-side positions are very suitable).
Lotus position, Kama Sutra
Anal sex; this strongly brings up our wild and beastly side; while the man penetrates the woman he can stimulate her G-spot and/or clitoris. Good for highly energized sex magick. Warning: I hate warnings, but I have to let you know that everything that has been in the anus - be it a finger, sex-toy, penis, whatever - has to be cleaned thoroughly before you can insert it into the vagina! Because the anus contains much bacteria which in absolutely no way should be transmitted to the vagina, being the inside of a woman's body, where they can cause very serious infections!
way of partner sex magick is using fellatio and cunnilingus, better known as
'position 69', being mutual oral sex. Visualize the energy reaching you
through the mouth of your partner, entering your body at the genitals,
moving up to your mouth and then leaving you to enter the genitals or your
partner; in this way you visualize an increasing circle or energy.
Mutual oral sex magick is not suitable if you work with affirmations, but good if you work with sigils and visualizations. Partners can agree to invoke a goddess or god into one of the partners, while the other partner keeps his or her human form. This is a strong way of adoring the divine core in your partner and it can be really special for both partners.
partner who will take on the god-form allows his or her mind to go blank, while
the other partner invokes the goddess/god into his or her (it should be clear
that you have to agree on the deity on beforehand).
rituals merely serve spiritual development; you normally don't use them for a
specific goal in the outside world, but both enjoy adoring the divinity in a
sexual way. In The Great Rite a goddess/god is invoked into both partners. This
is for advanced sex magicians. The male magician invokes the goddess into the
female magician (having her mind blank), and the female magician invokes the god
into her partner (having made his mind blank) - or the other way around. Again
this is sex magick for spiritual evolution, and it can be very intense and
sex magick: for instance you live in London, your partner is on a business-trip
in Tokyo and you want to do magick together. Agree (on the phone or email) on a
goal, affirmation/visualization/sigil, time to start the ritual and approximate
lenght of it (mind the different time-zones). Visualize a very big circle of
protection, covering all the way from London to Tokyo. Then start masturbating,
strongly visualizing your partner having sex with you, calling out his/her name
from time to time and complete the ritual.
is no act of passion that shall not be a hymn in mine honour." Aleister
group sex magickal act is not a kinky party; see it as a serious dedication of a
number of people to a certain goal. The fact that magick works synergistic is a
very good reason for a group to practice (sex) magick. No one in the world can
demand you to ever do a sex magickal act against your will. But you may also
consider that social behavior has taught us to regard our bodies and sexual
expressions as being sinful - thus keeping us from showing our nudity and
sexuality in public. So the big question I'd like to ask, and I don't know the
answer, is: how natural is the aversion of many people against group sex?
Tiger, Kama Sutra
rituals are for advanced sex magicians. Every participant must know how to
raise, control and direct energies. They must be determined to work magick with
their sexuality; if their aim is to sexually freak out with many partners they
will ruin the ritual.
a group ritual it is absolutely not possible to cross barriers, the group has to
agree on possible borders on beforehand. If someone namely does something
another member of the group feels uncomfortable with, the whole energy chain
will be broken and the ritual will be worthless. Generally spoken group rituals
can follow the techniques described under solo and duo sex magick. They can be
masturbatory, in the form of having intercourse, or in the form of a large oral
course establishing an atmosphere of contact, trust and openness is very
important within a group ritual. A group meditation, holding hands in a circle
feeling the energy circulating, or maybe chanting a mantra together are very
good to start with. A larger group will have a leader, a person not
participating in the ritual, but spiritually and magically guiding the group.
The leader will do the banishments and take care of the timing and process of
the ritual. This gives the group the opportunity to be completely sexually
involved, raising enormous energy.
leader will from time to time ask the group to spread the raised energy amongst
the group and to focus it into the direction of the chosen goal. The leader will
also harmonize the energies by directing them with his will, and raising them if
needed, from a place with much energy to a place within the group with less
energy. And at the peak of the sexual energy the leader will ask the group to
work towards orgasm and channel all their energy into the magical goal.
would like to end this piece with the suggestion of a group ritual for the
healing of mother earth (or a partner ritual, or a solo ritual). Nowadays many
groups meditate for the well being and healing of our planet. By using sex
magick we can actively send healing to the planet who gave birth to all of us.
The bible states that our bodies are made from dust of the earth. With sex
magick we can return mother earth some of this gift.
I wish you a
happy and fulfilled sex magickal life!
Modern Sex Magick: Secrets of Erotic Spirituality, by Donald Michael Kraig